Just recently we celebrated Mother’s Day, a day where we celebrate all the things our mothers do. But it seems like the rest of the year is free-reign for judgment and critiquing.
I get it. I judge. I go to playgroups and playgrounds and see questionable behavior in both parent and child and I jump to conclusions. And I know others do the same to me because parenting is controversial. Co-sleeping, children’s Tylenol, bumper pads, gripe water, cloth diapers, crying-it-out, home-made baby food. It’s exhausting to keep up with all the recalls, trends, and taboos.
As a mother, all we can really do is try our best. Easier said than done.
Especially when TIME magazine goes and posts a cover photo and headline like this. I feel that this is a cheap shot to mothers, especially mothers who have chosen attachment parenting as their plan of action/parenting and especially those who have chosen to nurse their child beyond the average 6 months. Even I, a strong advocate for breastfeeding until you and/or baby/toddler are ready to wean, found this picture a little upsetting. It wasn’t that they cast an especially mature looking toddler on the cover, but rather how they posed mother and child.
Breastfeeding is one of the most beautiful and comfortable and natural things out there. But there’s nothing natural about this pose. It looks “mechanical” and “it misses the nurturing, comfort and empathy” of breastfeeding. This cover got it all wrong. Next time, let’s capture the beauty of motherhood, the bonding, the love. It might not sell as many magazines, but maybe some things just shouldn’t be for sale.
Here are some beautiful and real photos that I think depict true attachment parenting from a website that really celebrates the art of parenting -something we should all do.